Why can't we cheer each other on?

Just yesterday I witnessed one of the best little dancers I know lose confidence in herself and feel so uncomfortable on the dance floor that she could not finish the routine we were practicing. A dance combination that I know she could have done in her sleep.

Why did this happen you might be wondering… well because one of her classmates chose to say something bad and give a horrible facial expression. To someone who doesn't work with children or doesn't have any young children in their lives this incident may seem minor. Maybe something not even worth mentioning. But as someone who works with children on a daily basis, I'm here to tell you that "moment" if not  addressed and corrected can be life altering.

Think for just a moment about your own life experience and I can almost guarantee that you can recall a moment when someone you know was shamed for being good at something. (Perhaps even you)

Why is that? It absolutely baffles me and saddens me that someone who has a talent be forced to "tone it down", keep it a secret, or worst of all actually be made to feel bad for their talent.

In what world should someone who practices daily, and takes the time to improve have to apologize for their hard work?

How do we change this culture of shaming? How do we get our kids to appreciate each other's talents and cheer each other on? How do we get them to see differences as just differences and not things that make you better or worse than someone else? And lastly how do we as adults not continue to do this very same thing to each other?

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 I'm Sally and this is Where I Find Myself.

Where I Find Myself- Self Doubt

Have you ever felt not good enough?

 That is a really difficult and humbling question to ask yourself ...or should I say a really difficult admission to make out loud to the world. Well I have felt it. I have felt it in my career, I have felt it in relationships and I have felt it in public situations just to name a few.

  I invite you to join me in the effort of letting this paralyzing often self inflicted feeling go. Perhaps a life long, day to day effort to let it go. Please join me and let go of that nagging, pestering, doubt filled piece of you. You know what I'm referring to, that voice that lives in your head, that voice that gets louder as you get more anxious. Truth is everyone has it, some of us are just better at disguising it and keeping it under wraps.

I invite you to follow me on twitter @SallyWIFM where I have posted a clip that I found to be very inspiring.

My name is Sally and this is Where I Find Myself.

Where I Find Myself- Getting Started

One of my personal goals for the new year is to live my life to its fullest potential. I have wanted to create a blog for some time now and have given it so much thought that the planning of it has frozen me right in my tracks. Isn't that funny...how you really want to accomplish something and you can actually worry yourself or plan yourself into doing nothing. So today I woke up and thought to myself- just start. I will learn as I go, improve as I go, and put all the thought and planning to use and just begin. Just beginning something and putting the fear aside and taking things step by step makes a seemingly difficult task much more manageable.

My name is Sally and this is where I find myself.

I hope you will enjoy my blog and all of the places, events, moments, and situations in which I find myself.  I hope that you will just start your next goal instead of letting that very first step freeze you in your tracks!